Four kinds of loves

I have to come to believe that there are 4 kinds of love in terms of loving another human. The love for God would be on another scope and scale and is not included in this list. They follow below, some durable or strong and others fragile or weak:

- Love with Passion: That we all wish to feel and dream about, the one where your heart skips a beat when you see that person. This love is fragile as passion is highly emotional and we all know emotions are very unstable, little trouble and they can disappear like thin air. Break up is eminent cause when the passion fates, what is left to keep you together? You may many times hear people say, "I have not chosen this, It just happened", so when things go wrong, they are not responsible.

- Love by Choice: The one where you choose to be with someone and love them for whatever reason you may have. This love can go through rocky times as when you make a choice, you are more willing to accept the consequences and would therefore be more likely to put in effort to make it work. This would also be the love for a friend and we have seen that friendships seldom die. It is therefore recommended that your spouse or lover be also your friend. When passion fades, you choose to stay or not.

- Love by Obligation: That you would find in arranged weddings in some traditions. Even sometimes when one gets coerced into a relationship by somebody and which you feel that you have not chosen. Sometimes given time this may develop into a real thing and that would turn into a love by choice, otherwise a very sad life would follow.

- Love by Default: That we have for our family and we cannot choose our family. This love you have not much control over. It is also not applied to the love we seek in life for a lover and that lifelong partner we all wish to have.

All said, be wise and know what you want in life. Guard your heart against false pretences and not fall into the same trap as many for thousands of years.

Be not be scared to follow your emotions, but be also wary not except something to last while you know it would not. Know what you want!