Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Friday, April 8, 2011
Four kinds of loves
I have to come to believe that there are 4 kinds of love in terms of loving another human. The love for God would be on another scope and scale and is not included in this list. They follow below, some durable or strong and others fragile or weak:
- Love with Passion: That we all wish to feel and dream about, the one where your heart skips a beat when you see that person. This love is fragile as passion is highly emotional and we all know emotions are very unstable, little trouble and they can disappear like thin air. Break up is eminent cause when the passion fates, what is left to keep you together? You may many times hear people say, "I have not chosen this, It just happened", so when things go wrong, they are not responsible.
- Love by Choice: The one where you choose to be with someone and love them for whatever reason you may have. This love can go through rocky times as when you make a choice, you are more willing to accept the consequences and would therefore be more likely to put in effort to make it work. This would also be the love for a friend and we have seen that friendships seldom die. It is therefore recommended that your spouse or lover be also your friend. When passion fades, you choose to stay or not.
- Love by Obligation: That you would find in arranged weddings in some traditions. Even sometimes when one gets coerced into a relationship by somebody and which you feel that you have not chosen. Sometimes given time this may develop into a real thing and that would turn into a love by choice, otherwise a very sad life would follow.
- Love by Default: That we have for our family and we cannot choose our family. This love you have not much control over. It is also not applied to the love we seek in life for a lover and that lifelong partner we all wish to have.
All said, be wise and know what you want in life. Guard your heart against false pretences and not fall into the same trap as many for thousands of years.
Be not be scared to follow your emotions, but be also wary not except something to last while you know it would not. Know what you want!
- Love with Passion: That we all wish to feel and dream about, the one where your heart skips a beat when you see that person. This love is fragile as passion is highly emotional and we all know emotions are very unstable, little trouble and they can disappear like thin air. Break up is eminent cause when the passion fates, what is left to keep you together? You may many times hear people say, "I have not chosen this, It just happened", so when things go wrong, they are not responsible.
- Love by Choice: The one where you choose to be with someone and love them for whatever reason you may have. This love can go through rocky times as when you make a choice, you are more willing to accept the consequences and would therefore be more likely to put in effort to make it work. This would also be the love for a friend and we have seen that friendships seldom die. It is therefore recommended that your spouse or lover be also your friend. When passion fades, you choose to stay or not.
- Love by Obligation: That you would find in arranged weddings in some traditions. Even sometimes when one gets coerced into a relationship by somebody and which you feel that you have not chosen. Sometimes given time this may develop into a real thing and that would turn into a love by choice, otherwise a very sad life would follow.
- Love by Default: That we have for our family and we cannot choose our family. This love you have not much control over. It is also not applied to the love we seek in life for a lover and that lifelong partner we all wish to have.
All said, be wise and know what you want in life. Guard your heart against false pretences and not fall into the same trap as many for thousands of years.
Be not be scared to follow your emotions, but be also wary not except something to last while you know it would not. Know what you want!
Evolution of Men
It is scary the evolution of men (women included). Look at the behaviour and all kinds of social problems arising especially in the youth. With every generation of youth, it gets WORSE. Many of the developed countries citizens from my understanding suffer from constant depression.
Now the African or developing countries would like to follow in their path in all aspects; economic, social, political and other. At least we have the chance to learn from the mistakes of developed countries and improve our future to one day come out on top of even today's developed countries.
Well, I would not be holding my breath...
On another note, as this world is governed by the monitory system, survival is about access to fund by means of job, education and as such, not so much how big and strong men are. You would notice that the men with money and in positions are not necessary physically strong men, no; it’s about brains, ideas and connections these days. We know that gens are inherited, so our children are becoming smaller. Women don’t even want to have some meat on their bodies now and men don't want to do hard labour jobs.
Woman think in of security in terms of the men be able to provide financial security, not how good he can hunt in the field for meat. The hunting field have changed.
How do we see our genetic physical build in the future? Would we look like the aliens in the movies, having big heads and small bodies?
Now the African or developing countries would like to follow in their path in all aspects; economic, social, political and other. At least we have the chance to learn from the mistakes of developed countries and improve our future to one day come out on top of even today's developed countries.
Well, I would not be holding my breath...
On another note, as this world is governed by the monitory system, survival is about access to fund by means of job, education and as such, not so much how big and strong men are. You would notice that the men with money and in positions are not necessary physically strong men, no; it’s about brains, ideas and connections these days. We know that gens are inherited, so our children are becoming smaller. Women don’t even want to have some meat on their bodies now and men don't want to do hard labour jobs.
Woman think in of security in terms of the men be able to provide financial security, not how good he can hunt in the field for meat. The hunting field have changed.
How do we see our genetic physical build in the future? Would we look like the aliens in the movies, having big heads and small bodies?
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